What’s the most stressful thing about planning a wedding? The most fun?

Among the many young couples attending the first Jewish Bridal Fair in Foster City in January, j. snagged three of them and posed those questions. Here are their responses:

Jessica Intrator and Rambo Jacoby of San Jose are planning to be married this summer in July.

Their biggest headache? “Finding the music,” he says.

“We want a multicultural wedding, with Persian, Mizrahi and Latin” elements, she explains.

“We’ve contacted many groups,” he continues, but had yet to find a band that could handle the various cultures, music-wise.

“It’s tough,” she adds. “We want to make sure we’re celebrating both sides.”

They will have a traditional Jewish ceremony at a synagogue in San Jose, with the reception nearby.

Along with all the difficult decision-making, there’s plenty to smile about, they add.

“Getting to share the excitement with our families” is great, Intrator says.

“And planning the flowers” is fun, Jacoby adds, especially since a friend is growing them just for the occasion.

Sarah Marx and Joe Cancilla of San Francisco will be married in the summer of 2007. Though they are, of course, excited about the wedding, their biggest worry is how they will mesh their different religions in the ceremony and make their families feel comfortable. He comes from a large, Italian Catholic family, while hers is Jewish.

“Right now we’re just trying to figure out what kind of ceremony we want for a non-Jew and a non-practicing Jew,” she says.

They’d just attended a workshop at the bridal fair for interfaith couples and were considering possible alternatives. They include “finding a rabbi who will weave in elements of another tradition, or having a tag-team ceremony between a rabbi and priest or a non-clergy,” she says.

Also, “They mentioned handing out programs, so people will know [what’s going on],” an idea they also liked.

Says Joe: “I’m not a strong, practicing Catholic — it’s mostly for my family. We’re sort of shopping around” for ideas.

Adds Sarah, “I’m more interested in the cultural aspects and the heritage as it pertains to my family. The religious aspects don’t resonate with me.”

Hadara Stanton and Jerry Hersh of San Francisco are planning to marry this summer.

Among the highlights so far: “My mom [Rifka Greenberg] is making the chuppah,” Stanton says. She’s also enjoying planning “the ceremony and the different personal aspects.”

Hersh likes “collaborating with Hadara on different ideas and coming to decisions together.” Luckily, they are able to reach an agreement on most things.

As for pressure points: “I find looking for vendors the most stressful,” she says. Though they have selected a rabbi and nailed down a venue in San Francisco, they are still searching for “a variety of vendors — pretty much everything,” she says.

What makes him nervous? “When people tell us we better start looking!”