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Deaths for the week of Oct. 20, 2017

Edward Bogetz, aged 95, died in Lincolnwood, Illinois, on August 17 with family by his side. Dear father of David (Sharon) of Deerfield, Ill., Martin (Karen) of Kentfield and Gail (Arne) of Corte Madera. He was the cherished grandfather of seven and great-grandfather of two. Ed was an uncle and great-uncle to his sister’s children and grandchildren, and the brother-in-law of Annabelle Cloner of Rossmoor.

Our father was born in Brooklyn and came from very humble beginnings; the son of Anna and David Bogetz. His older sisters, Molly and Frances, predeceased him. Ed was very bright and eager to learn, but poverty precluded certain opportunities. His sisters introduced him to the library, which was free, so he became a voracious reader, but he also performed manual labor to help support his family. Ed enlisted in the Army and was selected for OCS but declined, concerned that he would not be able to succeed. He fought in Italy and North Africa, rose to the rank of staff sergeant and was awarded both the Bronze Star and Combat Infantry Badge. In July of 1950, he was called up to serve in the Air Force during the Korean War.

Ed and Elaine married at Walter Reed and subsequently moved to Chicago to be near her parents, where they raised their children and remained for the duration of his life. He held jobs in several fields and ultimately retired as a bank VP. His Judaism dictated who he was: unassuming, a mensch, a man who set an example of morality, dignity, decency and hard work for his family and others. We were all graced by his presence and miss him very much.

At the end he was on hospice, so we were able to provide for him the way he had taken care of all of us. His burial service included a military honor guard, which lent a touching dimension to the funeral. May his memory be a blessing as we reflect on how fortunate we were to have had him with us for so long, but in the end it was not long enough.

Donations can be made to St. Francis Hospital, 355 Ridge Ave., Evanston, IL 60602.

Evelyn Valery Fielden

February 7, 1921–October 8, 2017

Evelyn Valery Fielden
Evelyn Valery Fielden

Evelyn Valery Fielden, 96, neé Bendix, died peacefully in her home on the morning of October 8, 2017, with her daughters at her side. She is predeceased by her husband, Bert, and her sister, Ingeborg Logan.

Born in Berlin, Germany, to Johanna and Fritz Bendix, Evelyn escaped to England in 1939. There, she joined the British Women’s Land Army and later was a motorcycle courier for the National Fire Service, and also went to art school. She met Bert in 1944 and soon after immigrated to the United States, where she was reunited with her parents in San Francisco. They were fortunate to escape Berlin in 1940, overland via Siberia, Shanghai and Japan.

Evelyn married Bert in 1948 and together they spent 35 years in the Foreign Service, with posts in Vienna, Berlin, Washington, D.C., Rio de Janeiro, Paris and Mexico City. In 1975, they retired and settled in Napa, California, where Evelyn enjoyed calligraphy and gardening. After Bert died in 1986, Evelyn volunteered with the JFCS Holocaust Center of Northern California, collecting stories of survivors for the Oral History Project.

She is survived by her daughters, Jessica Fielden and Monica Padrnos (Ricky), and her granddaughter, Corinna Fielden. A fearless adventurer, Evelyn personified the essence of carpe diem. We will miss her. A memorial is planned for a later date. Donations may be made to the JFCS Holocaust Center of Northern California or the ACLU.

Dennis Forrest

Loving father, grandfather and brother Dennis Forrest (f.k.a. Frucht), 64, of San Mateo, died on the morning of Wednesday, September 27, 2017, at Santa Clara Kaiser.

Dennis was born on March 26, 1953, in San Mateo, California, to Stanley and Toby Frucht, and older sister Rennie. Dennis grew up in San Mateo and had his bar mitzvah at Peninsula Temple Beth El in San Mateo in 1966. He graduated from Capuchino High School in 1971 and, after some college, began a career in food services, eventually leaving Mills-Peninsula Hospital after over 20 years for a career in HOA property maintenance.

Dennis was married to, and eventually separated from after 18 years, Heather, the mother of his two beloved daughters, Melissa and Christina. Dennis was a lifelong Bay Area resident and enjoyed spending time with his children and granddaughter, pets and friends; weekend breakfasts with his father; listening to music; singing; playing guitar and bass; bowling; watching TV; and short trips to Lake Tahoe with his daughter for a little gambling and sightseeing. Dennis regularly played the lottery with the hopes to hit the jackpot and buy everyone he loved a new house and treat himself to a cabin with a lake view.

Dennis was easygoing and a friend to all. He delivered constant “Dad jokes” or puns. He loved to tease and flirt. He cared deeply for children and animals. Dennis is survived by his children Melissa and her husband Kris Stathakopoulos, his daughter Christina, and his granddaughter, Georgina (Gigi) Stathakopoulos. He also leaves behind his dear friend and father, Stanley; his sister Rennie and her husband Barry Harris; his stepsister Kim; and his nieces and nephews Jennifer, Danny and his wife Ann, and his grandniece Piper.

His funeral was held at Peninsula Temple Beth El on Oct. 4 and burial was at Skylawn Memorial Park in San Mateo.

John Friedrich
John Friedrich

John Freidenrich passed away on October 11, 2017. He was 80 years old. Born and raised in Palo Alto, John was the middle son of Edith (Schermer) and David Freidenrich and brother to David Jr. and Dennis. He held a deep commitment to the betterment of his community with his many causes and generosities. His lifelong commitment to Stanford University, his alma mater, spanned four university presidents and more than 40 years of dedicated service. His good deeds are far-reaching and will grow because of all the seeds he planted and all the people and causes he supported.

John was co-founder of the Regis Management Company. He began his career as a lawyer, starting the law firm of Ware & Freidenrich (now DLA Piper). He also founded the venture capital firm Bay Partners and led it for over a quarter-century. He received his bachelor’s degree and L.L.D. from Stanford University.

John is survived by the love of his life, his wife of 54 years, Jill; his children Gail Marks and Eric Freidenrich and their spouses Andrew and Amy; his brothers David and Dennis Freidenrich; and his beloved six grandchildren: Jacqueline, Danielle, Theodore, Lucille, Beverly and Sylvia.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in John’s name to:

Stanford University for “The John Freidenrich Memorial Fund for Stanford Medicine”
Bay Area Cancer Connections – Palo Alto, California
The Jewish Community Federation – San Francisco, California

A community Celebration of Life will be announced by the family at a later date.

Richard Merle Kaplan

May 22, 1924–October 15, 2017

Richard M. Kaplan, attorney at law, was a proud 1951 graduate of the University of Michigan law school and maintained his civil litigation practice in San Francisco for 50 years until retiring at age 77.

Over his long and diverse career, Richard believed that Mandel vs. Hodges may have had the most impact of any litigation he handled. This decision by the State of California Supreme Court resulted in state employees having the freedom to take paid time off to celebrate the religious holidays of their choice instead of time off for Good Friday observance. After the landmark decision, Richard was overwhelmed with inquiries from other states as to how they could emulate the policy. He also developed the theory of “private attorneys general” for legal pursuits in the public interest.

Richard served the legal community as President of the San Francisco Lawyers Club. He also participated as a Lawyers Club delegate at many State Bar conventions. He was an active member of the Jewish community in San Francisco, serving as a Vice President of Congregation Emanu-El, President of the American Jewish Congress Commission on Law and Social Action, as a national board member of the American Jewish Congress, and President of the Jewish Community Relations Council of San Francisco.

In his private life, Richard was an avid skier, runner, a mean tennis player, and a loyal patron of the San Francisco Symphony, Opera and American Conservatory Theatre as well as other arts organizations. His love of traveling took him and wife, Susan, to Europe, Asia and Africa. He also spent much time gardening and creating bonsai. He was an active member of the San Francisco Bonsai Club for at least 35 years.

A native of Chicago, Illinois, he lived in San Francisco since 1951. Richard is survived by Susan, his wife of 55 years, his son, Philip, daughter, Ruth, and grandchildren, Sarah and Joshua. Richard was the brother of the late Henry S. Kaplan of Stanford, California, and the son of the late Nathan and Sarah Brilliant Kaplan. A special thanks to the wonderful staff at Silverado in Salt Lake City for providing such kind and compassionate care of Richard these past three years.

A memorial service will be held at Congregation Emanu-El at 3:30 p.m. Sunday, Nov. 5. Memorial contributions may be made to the Fromm Institute for Lifelong Learning at the University of San Francisco, the Jewish Community Relations Council of San Francisco, the University of Michigan Law School Fund, or a charity of your choice.

Trude B. Plack (nee Rosenthal) died at home on October 8, 2017. She is survived by three children: Jeffrey Plack (Beatrice), Deborah Ross and Martin Plack (Janel); and is Damma to 10 grandchildren: Daniel (Jessica), Matthew (Corinne) and Robert Ross, Aaron (Michele), Joshua and Melanie (Josh) Vigil, Ariel Plack and Jacob, Moriah and Jordan Plack; and two great-granddaughters, Autumn Vigil and Sloan Ross. She is preceded in death by Morris, her husband of 57 years, and her daughter, Karen Vigil (John).

Trude was born in Frankfurt, Germany, in 1924 and left for England at age 14 through the Kindertransport program. She lived through the blitzkrieg in London. She sailed across the North Atlantic in late 1943 to be reunited with her parents, Albert and Melanie, and her brother, Harry. She lived in San Francisco until she moved to Millbrae in 2004.

Trude lived her life with honesty, integrity and decency and was a great friend to all that were lucky enough to be part of her life. A woman of enduring class, she made everyone with whom she interacted feel at ease and a welcome part of her day.

Funeral services were held at Salem Memorial Park in Colma.

In lieu of flowers, donations to American Cancer Society or Peninsula Temple Sholom are appreciated.

(Sinai SF)

Julia (“Julie”) Stevenson (a combination of goodness and graciousness) died of natural causes on October 9, 2017, in Hayward, California.

Julia was born on September 25, 1926, in Denver, Colorado. Her parents, Max and Anna Zuckerman, were Jewish immigrants from Russia. Julia spent some of her early childhood in San Francisco (her family relocated after her father procured a better-paying tailor position). However, after a few years, her family had to return to Denver; Julia’s older brother had asthma and his physician told her parents that he could not improve if he continued to live in San Francisco.

Julia (“Julie”) Stevenson
Julia (“Julie”) Stevenson

After three or four years in Denver, Julia’s family again relocated, this time to Cheyenne, Wyoming. Julia graduated from Cheyenne High School in 1943, where she had been an all-state basketball player. She then immediately enrolled in a Denver business-career college. After completing this program, Julia worked as a legal secretary in Denver until 1953, when she and her good friend, Annie, took what they thought was going to be a short vacation to San Francisco.

Both Julia and Annie immediately loved the city and decided that they would stay. After quickly finding jobs, they notified their respective employers that they were not returning to Denver. Julia and Annie decided — straightaway — that the best place to meet future spouses was at the San Francisco Jewish Center (SFJC). They were correct; within the same year (1953), Julia and Annie both married fellows that they met at a SFJC dance. Julia married Jack Stevenson on October 8, 1953. They had two children, Tod (born in September 1954) and Melinda (“Mindy”) (born in October 1958).

After the birth of her first child, Julia became a full-time housewife and was very much involved in her children’s school and extracurricular activities. In 1961, Julia and Jack moved their family to the Westlake district of Daly City. Julia lived in that same Henry Doelger-built Westlake house until she died. In the 1960s and 1970s, Julia served as an officer of the Temple Judea (later Temple Beth-Israel Judea) Sisterhood. After Mindy died of brain cancer in 1996, Julia protected and supported Mindy’s two then very young sons, Steve and Daniel Fishman. She remained extremely close to both her grandsons to the very end of her life.

Julia was also a constant source of strength, encouragement and love for Tod (as she had been for Mindy). In fact, Julia was (and remains after her death) a towering presence in her family, which includes her younger brother Robert (Patty) and her nieces and nephews Lesli Weissman (Avi), Jamie Sands, Lindsey Beil (John), Jim Zucherman (Hilary), Mark Zucherman (Inez), Jerry Stevenson (Irith) and Harvey Schuck (Danielle). They (and their spouses) revered her — and she loved each of them.

Julia’s lifelong phobia of hospitals and doctors was well-known throughout her family and circle of friends; they thought it was an endearing (but sometimes exasperating) quirk. Although she had been a stage 4 cancer patient since 2010, she declared after her successful 2011 cancer surgery, “That’s it. No more doctors and hospitals for me.” Julia died almost instantly — the way she wanted to leave. Her family and friends will always be so grateful that Julia (selfless, kind, independent and humorous) was in their lives and that she was able to die on her own terms. In addition to Mindy, Julia was predeceased by her husband Jack and her older brother, Sidney (both of whom died in 1987). Julia was buried on Oct. 13 — Mindy’s birthday. Julia, Mindy, and Jack will — forevermore — be reunited on this special day.

Per Julia’s request, her funeral was for family only. Finally, in lieu of flowers, donations to any reputable charity aiding victims of the recent hurricanes that devastated parts of Florida, Puerto Rico and Texas, or the fires that have caused so much misery in the North Bay, would be a wonderful way to remember and honor Julia.

(Sinai SF)