a lit memorial candle with a Sinai Memorial Chapel logo on it

Deaths for the week of Oct. 4-10, 2020

Obituaries are supported by a generous grant from Sinai Memorial Chapel. This page will be updated throughout the week. Submit an obituary here.


Vivian Faith Reif Gluck

January 11, 1922–October 3, 2020

Vivian Faith Reif Gluck
Vivian Faith Reif Gluck

Vivian lived in New Brunswick, New Jersey, for many years. She was a devoted and proud wife, mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. She was married to Sidney Harold Gluck for 75 years, now deceased. They retired to California to be near their family and settled in Menlo Park. She delighted in her only daughter and son-in-law, Sharon & Irwin Kasser, and her grandchildren, Brian & Jill Kasser and Lara & David Stone. She joyfully attended the B’nai Mitzvot of all five great-grandchildren, Justin Greil, Andrew Louis, Adam Reif, Allison Eva & Jared Alexander.

She assisted her husband for many years in his electronics business in New Jersey. Later, she worked at Arnold Constable’s Department Store in New Brunswick, first in sales and then as a department manager in cosmetics. She later went on to become a floor manager. She had a sharp mind and her memory was extraordinary! Well into her 90s she would astound the family and friends with details of daily and family events.

Beauty was important to Vivian. She loved pretty things and put them together well. She was proud of her many collectables.

Vivian was able to live independently these last few years because of the assistance she received from her health angels, Sui, Suilana, Anna & Olga, wonderful care-givers who were always there for her needs.

She will be missed by all.

Sinai-Redwood City


Mary Hoexter

August 24, 1922–September 30, 2020

Mary Hoexter
Mary Hoexter

Mary Hoexter passed away peacefully September 30, 2020, in Palo Alto, California, after obtaining the ripe old age of 98. Mary was born in 1922 in San Francisco, a fourth-generation Californian descended from Gold Rush prospectors and merchants. She was raised in San Francisco and continued a life-long love of the city and of California. A longtime resident of Berkeley with her beloved husband, Hank, she (with Hank) moved to Palo Alto in 2010, where her final home was the Moldaw Family Residences, and where she and Hank greatly enjoyed the friendship of fellow residents.

Mary leaves son David and daughter-in-law Judie; grandsons David and wife Diana, Jonas and wife Rachel, and Michael; and great-grandchildren Forrest, Alex, Ben, Cosimo, Maya, Liam and Joey. Mary was predeceased by her parents Emanuel (Mannie) and Fannie (Judah) Rosenthal, her brother Richard, and her daughter Susan.

Mary was a quiet, undemanding woman, always available for support but never pushing herself or her opinions onto others. She was an avid student of California Jewish history and co-authored several articles with son David on family forebears. She was a lover of nature, the environment, hiking, and travel. She remembered her first hike, on her father’s shoulders in Yosemite. She met Hank on a hike on Mount Tamalpais in 1946, and they trekked the Himalayas in the 1990s. Her last hike was 4½ miles, in Yosemite, in June 2018. Joining her in Yosemite to celebrate her 96th birthday were her son and daughter-in-law, grandchildren and spouses, and great-grandchildren!

In lieu of flowers, donations to your favorite charity would be most appreciated. A couple of Mary’s favorites were the Nature Conservancy and the Magnes Museum in Berkeley (where she volunteered for decades). The family wishes to express its thanks in particular to the loving and caring staff of the Moldaw Residences in Palo Alto, whose devotion and love were palpable. Also, thanks to Pathways Hospice, and to the caregivers and nurses of CareIndeed and AmiCare, who provided loving and caring support in Mary’s final days.

An in-person memorial service is contemplated, but delayed due to Covid.

Sinai-SF


Ruth Krumbein

June 2, 1944–September 23, 2020

Ruth Krumbein
Ruth Krumbein

Ruth Krumbein, a wonderfully dedicated and generous volunteer at the Peninsula Jewish Community Center, Peninsula Museum of Art, Star Vista, and other local service organizations, passed away peacefully on September 23.

Ruth spent most of her childhood in Larchmont, New York, followed by college at SUNY Buffalo. Pursuing her love for language and children, Ruth became a middle school English teacher, first in the Boston area and then in Pacifica, joining her brother Jerry and his family in the Bay Area.

After years of teaching, Ruth began a new career as a “super volunteer” at the PJCC. For nearly two decades she worked tirelessly as part of the PJCC team, helping to raise millions of dollars through events, auctions, fashion shows, raffles, and more. She later took on the role of preschool librarian, reorganizing the lending library, reading weekly to scores of children, and often donating books and supplies.

Ruth’s spirit of giving went well beyond volunteerism. She went out of her way to drive people to medical visits and golf outings, and supported friends through surgeries, chronic illnesses, breast cancer, and more.

Ruth was generous, kind, loving, fun, funny, and a wonderful friend and companion. To know Ruth was to know the ultimate babysitter, the substitute soccer mom giving out treats, the amusing and feisty playmate, and the adored friend, aunt and sister. She will be missed.

Ruth is survived by her brother Jerry Krumbein, and her nieces Alison and Lindsay, and their families.

Donations in Ruth’s memory may be made to the Peninsula JCC, 800 Foster City Blvd., Foster City, CA 94404, or online at pjcc.org/donate.


Barbara Schechner

September 2, 1939–October 1, 2020

Barbara Schechner
Barbara Schechner

At rest surrounded by her loving family at age 81. A native San Franciscan, born to the late Martin and Lucille Winslow. Barbara was a proud graduate of Washington High School and San Francisco State. She would later obtain her Master’s degree from Dominican University and would go on to be a Special Education teacher for many years.

She is survived by her loving husband, Jules; proud mother to Alan (Rose) and Steve; beloved sister to Philip (Beverly) Winslow; adored Aunt to Jeffrey (Elizabeth) Winslow and Janna Winslow; great-aunt to Melania and Nieves Winslow. She will remain in our hearts and be missed by all who knew her.

Due to Covid, services will be private. In lieu of flowers donations may be made in Barbara’s name to Congregation Rodef Sholom, 170 N San Pedro Rd., San Rafael, CA 94903, Bay Area Jewish Healing Center, 2530 Taraval St., #202, San Francisco, CA 94116, or Canal Alliance, 91 Larkspur St., San Rafael, CA 94901.

Sinai-SF


Selma Tandowsky

March 23, 1931–September 29, 2020

Selma Tandowsky
Selma Tandowsky

A resident of the Peninsula for 62 years, Selma passed away peacefully on September 29, 2020, at age 89. Selma was a positive, loving, caring, sweet, generous woman, and truly a matriarch. Selma’s presence was a gift to those who knew her and she will be forever missed.

Born in Pittsfield, Massachusetts, on March 23, 1931, to Anna and Herman Garbowit, she graduated from Pittsfield High School and the University of Massachusetts–Amherst.

In October 1953, Selma, a schoolteacher, met the love of her life, Sanford (Sandy) Tandowsky, at a dance for U.S. Army soldiers in Washington, D.C. They married within six months, and three weeks later, Sandy was deployed to Korea while Selma remained on the East Coast teaching elementary school. After reuniting a year later, Sandy earned his M.S. in Civil Engineering at Cal Tech before they moved to San Francisco. Even as Selma remained extremely close to her family of origin, she also adopted Sandy’s large extended family as her own.

Selma continued teaching school until her three children, son Keith, daughter Joan and son Neal, were born. Selma loved being a mother and relished spending her life with Sandy and their family. She provided Sandy with unwavering love and devotion as he started his own Structural Engineering firm. They remained inseparably in love until Sandy passed away in 2016.

As her children grew older, Selma started a new career as a travel agent. This new role was a great adventure that took her on trips all over the world. She loved being with people, and leading these trips with her family and friends became a true joy to her.

Selma was immensely proud of her three children, their spouses, and her nine grandchildren and great-granddaughter. Her nine grandchildren still call Cuernavaca Park in Burlingame “Grandma’s Park.” As she and Sandy experienced every grandchild’s milestones, they would tell everyone how lucky they were to have their children and grandchildren living within 15 minutes of one another.

Nothing meant more to Selma than her family and community. For more than 10 years, Selma and Sandy taught reading to grade school students as part of the Jewish Literacy Program. Selma was a long-term member of Peninsula Temple Sholom and served on its board. She was honored for her Women’s American ORT work in 1994 and was voted Peninsula Temple Sholom Board Member of the Year in 2000.

Selma was pre-deceased by her loving husband of nearly 62 years, Sandy, and is survived by her proud legacy: children, Keith & Michelle Tandowsky of Burlingame, Joan & Michael Fox of Hillsborough and Neal & Ilana Tandowsky of San Mateo; grandchildren: Adam and Carly Fox, Jared & Lindsey Fox, Ethan and Sara Tandowsky, Jordan, Noah, Blake, Olivia & Meredith Tandowsky and great-granddaughter Sadie Fox. Devoted sister of the late George Garbowit and the late Celia Goodwin. Loving sister-in-law to Eleanor Tandowsky, Evelyn Garbowit, the late Richard Tandowsky and the late James Goodwin. Aunt, cousin and friend to many.

The family is deeply grateful to the loving staff at Sage Eldercare, Mission Hospice, and Angel Haven and Dr. Mary DeMay of UCSF for their care and compassion with Selma over the years.

A private family burial service was held.

The family suggests that memorial contributions may be made to Peninsula Temple Sholom, the Bay Area Jewish Healing Center, the Alzheimer’s Association or the charity of your choice.

Sinai-SF


Stephen H. Abel

September 3, 1938–September 26, 2020

Stephen H. Abel
Stephen H. Abel

Stephen Abel lived life with passion and integrity. Born in San Francisco to Cecil and Libbie Abel, Steve grew up in the Marina district with his older brother, Hillie. Following Lowell High School, Steve attended UC Berkeley, where he met the love of his life, Joanne Brodke. He then attended and graduated from UOP Dental School and proceeded to practice dentistry in Oakland with his father-in-law, Nat Brodke, and brother-in-law, Howard Brodke. For over 35 years, Steve was a skilled and dedicated dentist, always caring about and helping his patients.

In 1965, Steve and his wife, Joanne, moved to Orinda where they lived in the same home for 55 years. While he cherished his moments at home, hanging out with his kids and grandkids, reading the newspaper, and listening to Frank Sinatra, he equally treasured nights out in the East Bay and San Francisco, a vodka martini up, and deep conversations with friends and family.

His taste for clothing was evident to many, as was his ability to design fine men’s wear. Whether a leather jacket or a tailored sport coat, everyone knew Steve had style. But more than his sense of style was the incredible zest for life Steve had. He exuded kindness, dignity and class, and he loved his life, period.

After retiring from dentistry in 2000, Steve continued his love of traveling, golfing and spending time with his friends. He was involved in various charitable organizations, holding board positions for Home for Jewish Parents in the East Bay and the New Israel Fund. Steve also volunteered many hours teaching a post-baccalaureate program for aspiring dental students aimed at increasing diversity in dental schools and improving access to dental services for underserved populations.

In 2015, Steve was diagnosed with Acute Myeloid Leukemia (AML). He was fortunate to receive a bone marrow transplant in December 2016, however he developed complications which ultimately led to his death. He was surrounded by his family when he passed. Steve battled the hand he was dealt with strength and dignity to the very end.

Steve is survived by his wife of 59 years, Joanne, and two children, Greg (wife, Susan) and Dana (husband, Ricky). He has five grandchildren whom he adored (and they adored him back), Sarah, Jake, Alex, Willie and Kelly. He will be missed dearly by his friends and his family.

In lieu of flowers, donations in his memory may be sent to the New Israel Fund via nif.org, the Blood & Marrow Transplantation program at Stanford to support Dr. Andrew Rezvani’s research via bmt.stanford.edu, or the Pulmonary GVHD Research Fund at Stanford to support Dr. Husham Sharifi’s research via memorial.stanford.edu.