In first person: Brides sister, grooms brother baby-sit for niece, tie the knot

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His big brother Jules married her big sister Bess. She was just a little kid; he was already a teenager who drove his parents around in the family car because neither one knew how to drive. They discovered one another while baby-sitting for their new baby niece. Both loved to go dancing and together they would light up the dance floor.

During the height of the Depression, they decided to get married. The wedding was a very sad affair. His brother had gone off traveling; her sister kept crying. Many of the guests were strangers because they were members of his father's burial society from Europe and were never seen again after the wedding.

Times were hard, so when Ruth's father, a kosher butcher, invited them to come to live with him, they agreed. After all, her sister and his brother were already there, so they all lived and worked together in the family market. Following Ruth's father's death, the whole family moved to California and shared another home. By then Ruth and Lee had two daughters; so did Bess and Jules. The living arrangement continued until 1954, when Ruth and Lee moved to San Francisco to be on their own as a married couple for the first time after 17 years of marriage.

They still love to go dancing and particularly enjoy Nick's at Rockaway and the Compass Rose at the St. Francis Hotel where they are well known and always greeted warmly by the bandleaders. They are looking forward to celebrating their 60th anniversary in November 1997 with daughters Barbara and Maxine, their daughters' husbands and four grandchildren.