Overnight camp creates resilience, success in college

When I started my career as a camp director in 1993, my mother (the “Silver Fox”) shared the following thought with me: “Summer camp is like college, but just a little bit early.”

Being a strong believer in my mother’s wisdom, I found myself thinking about this statement fairly often. Summer camp had been a huge part of my personal development as a young man, and had even found its way into my college and graduate school applications. Yet the idea that “camp was like college” did not seem to make sense to me at the time.

Over the past 16 years, I have found that this idea is actually a profound one.

Steve Baskin

Three years ago, we were talking with a friend whose daughter was in her first year at college. Both mother and daughter had struggled mightily with the separation. “During the first semester, we would talk every day, sometimes five or six times. She was so sad and uncomfortable away from home. It really affected her grades and social life. She is better in her second semester, and she only calls once or twice a day. I still worry about her, though.”

This conversation reminded me of a speech I heard a few years ago by Wendy Mogel, who wrote the best-selling book “The Blessing of a Skinned Knee.” She shared a story about a friend whose daughter was a freshman at college at Sarah Lawrence.

Unlike my friend, this woman’s daughter thrived in her first semester in college. She earned exceptional marks and became president of the freshman class. During parents’ weekend, her mother met the mother of a senior who was student body president  and was weighing job offers. The mothers were sharing stories about their daughters’ experience when the mother of the senior shared an unexpected thought:

“I bet your daughter went to overnight summer camp.”

“She did, but what makes you say that?”

“I am not surprised. I have noticed that my daughter’s friends who had strong freshman years all went to overnight camp at some point. The ones that really struggled did not.”

The contrast of these two freshman experiences (our friend’s and Wendy’s) compelled me to think about why this might be true. Here is what I came up with.

Going to college presents many challenges, three of which jump out at me:

• Increased academic rigor;

• Being away from home and your traditional support system;

• Dealing with large amounts of uncertainty.

Of course, overnight camp does little to deal with the first challenge of academic rigor, but it helps substantially with both the others.

Camp helps students adjust to being away from home by giving them practice being away from home. Certainly, most have some homesickness, but the supportive camp community and the fun activities help ease them through this initial challenge. Homesickness is natural. Children will miss their parents.

Further, we live in a society that sometimes suggests to children they are only safe within eyeshot of their parents. Yet, we want our children to grow in confidence and independence so they can live productive, fulfilling and joyous lives. Camp enables children to experience successful independence. Like college, they are away from home. Unlike college, they are in a community committed to their physical and emotional safety.

Camp also helps campers experience overcoming uncertainty. I like to think of it as strengthening the “resilience muscle.”  By the time they go to college, they are much more confident and resilient.

So the former summer camper arriving at college as a freshman can focus energy on the challenges of academic rigor but not worry about being away from home and the uncertainty of a new environment. Other students face all three challenges. Seen this way, it is not hard to understand how camp can help later with college.

Last summer, a longtime camp mom shared her thoughts about her oldest son going to college. I asked her how she felt. “I’m going to miss him.”

“Are you worried?”

“No way. He has already gone to camp for nine years, so I know he will be fine. He is so excited to face this challenge. Camp has also helped me — I have had practice being separated from him. He is going to shine at school!”

Later, my wife and I agreed on three things: First, this was one of the nicest endorsements of camp we had heard. Second, we are so happy to think that the campers who have become such an important part of our lives will have an advantage in college. Finally, the “Silver Fox,” once again, was right.

Steve Baskin is co-owner of Camp Champions in Texas, Camp Pinnacle in North Carolina and Everwood Day Camp in Massachusetts. This blog appeared at http://bit.ly/uem8Mq.